The thing is, when people apologize, they tend to get a little angry
themselves if their apology isn't accepted or if the anger in the other
doesn't dissipate rather quickly. The trouble is, that just won't work.
If you make someone angry, whether it's your girl or someone else, it's
their anger, their issues. Not yours. You have no say in how long they
take to get over it. The thing you need to do, is be patient, kind,
considerate and understanding. And keep up with whatever promises you
made. Show that you meant it when you said you were sorry, and hope that
in time she will forgive you. That's the best you can do.
http://voices.yahoo.com/how-girl-forgive-five-step-approach-3713062.html
I needed some alone time. I was on the couch surfing on my ipad. The boy kept coming up to me to talk about things and then disappear and then come back to say something. Because I was meant to be somewhere else but I cancelled that so that I could have some time to recharge, I was irritated.
After I couldn't take it anymore, I told him to pretend that I wasn't in the house. That looked to have hurt his feelings. He walked by me later as though i was invisible. And I just ignored it, thinking that he would get over it. But it didnt go away. The coldness was still there. Then even at night when I said perhaps I could have worded it better or that we should have a safe word. We even agreed what word it would be -'volcano' or 'cocoon'.
But he didn't seem to forgive or rather forget. What am I missing?
At least I told him I needed space right? Instead of playing mind games? What does a girl need to do to get some downtime around here?
Later he told me that what I am asking for is weird. That people don't normally have to hide away from external stimulus in the comfort of their own home.
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